Who is Belle?

The fourth presentation in this series.

January 2nd, 1918. Belle and Will are man and wife, and on the train heading for a honeymoon trip in California. The groom is of Danish descent, a farmer in Canada, and the bride a teacher whose home is a manse, wherever her Dad is preaching. It is their first trip together.

Will has offered Belle a choice. His car in Canada is old, and needs replacing. The price of this will be about the same as the cost of a honeymoon in California. Which does she prefer? Belle does not hesitate.

“California! You can drive an old car a long time, but this is a chance to see a wonderful place. It may be a long time before we can again afford to go.” Will is delighted. Marriage means the possibility of children. It also means the expense of building a home on the farm.

After a honeymoon in California, the newlyweds travel to Calgary, Alberta, Canada. For the first time Belle sets foot in the country which will be her home for the rest of her life. Will settles her in a lovely hotel, the Palliser, and returns to his farm. His abode there is a small two-room shack. By March, when the temperature has moderated, Belle insists on joining him.

Will is concerned. On the one hand he will be delighted to have her with him, but wonders about his kitchen equipment. He asks her, “What do you need for doing the cooking and housework that is necessary? My equipment is pretty skimpy. Can you make a list?”

“Yes, that will be easy. It will just be the essentials.”

Will reads her list, and grins. “Put your coat on, honey. We have to go shopping.”

I turn from my computer, and look at a framed 98-year-old bill from J. H. Ashdown Hardware for cooking and housekeeping needs. The list has been scrutinized carefully. A couple of items scratched out brings the total down from $110 to $106. Belle and Will, you would be surprised! After almost 100 years that Ashdown Hardware bill tells me many things. Your shopping trip was on March 8th, 1918. It seems Belle was shopping not just for the bunk house, but for the permanent home which was underway. The list included a special stove, a stove brush, a six-gallon power churn, a kneading pad, and a chamber pail!

The summer of 1918 is more than busy, it is hectic. Belle is learning to carry her water from a pump, how to light an oil lamp, which vegetables to plant in the garden: a never-ending list of “firsts.” She is alternately amazed, amused, and excited. Her days are full and happy. Fortunately, she does not need much guidance. Will is over his head with urgent tasks – from planting a crop to supervising the building of their new home. This is a summer neither will forget.

The next four years produce one crisis after another. Will develops a stomach/digestive problem so serious he finally travels to the Mayo Clinic in Rochester, Minnesota. The disorder is diagnosed as stomach ulcers; the cure is doubtful. The doctors at Mayo prescribe a diet which has been found to help. He returns home and carries on, with better health.

In 1920 their hopes are realized when Belle becomes pregnant. Their first baby arrives on March 28th, 1921. Doris, a wee five-pound baby, is fine, but Belle almost dies. Will contacts her family in Iowa and tells them that the doctors think she will not survive.

Predictions! Never depend on them. Belle does survive, and is thrilled with their dear little daughter. She is distressed when she remembers the doctors’ advice not to have any more children. Will hires extra household help. They both delight in watching their little girl learn to walk. Then, to the surprise of (almost) all, 14 months after Doris was born, another baby girl, 7 pounds this time, arrives to complete the family on May 29th, 1922. This time Belle chooses not to go to the hospital. A home delivery with local help issues the new member into the fold.

They are now a family of four. The home is a nice farm house (which 96 years later still stands). Their love and enjoyment of each other never waver. Life often deals out unexpected challenges, but they are confident that together they will handle whatever comes.

1954 Thompson farm 1

As the fall of 1922 drifts toward winter, Will makes a decision. All told, it has been a busy and sometimes stressful few years. He announces to Belle that he wishes to move the family, temporarily, to California. “It’s a good time. Doris and Marjie won’t be upset as long as they have us. You have had a very hard time, and now have the babies to care for. I feel well, but can use a break from the farm work to get back to normal. Not for a long time, but a couple of years. What do you think of that?”

“Oh, Will, that would be wonderful. I could hire a nanny to help with the babies and the house. Help is easy to get there. But what about the farm? It can’t run by itself. We need money to live. You must have thought of these things.”

“Yes, I have. Now that you agree on the plan, I’ll close the deal. You don’t know them, but one of the Danish couples is interested. They’re very reliable, honest people and will do a good job. We’ll get a reasonable percentage of the profit. If we get to California just before Christmas, Marjie will be about 6 months old, and not too hard to travel with. Doris will be close to 2 and not any trouble.”

And so their family becomes temporary residents of Long Beach, California: a beneficial move for all. The interesting surroundings, warm climate, available household help, reduced tension, and increased leisure time are the right medicine at the right time.

1924 c.Thompson family

It does not take the Thompson family long to settle into their new home. Through an agency Belle hires Alma, a nanny. She will work five days a week, providing her little child can come with her. Sunny is about the same age as Doris. A week’s trial proves satisfactory, so that is settled. Belle can now get extra rest.

Alma manages the three wee girls with ease, and Doris loves having a playmate. At first the fact that Alma and Sunny are black feels strange to Belle. She has never had a personal relationship with anyone of another colour. It is a learning experience for Belle and, fortunately, a good one.

Meanwhile, Will scouts the neighborhood to see what it offers, locates the best sandy beach on the ocean front, and buys a second-hand car. As his health improves and his vigour begins to return, he takes a job as a carpenter. It fills some of the days, and brings in extra income.

The novelty of living such a different life in such unfamiliar surroundings is challenging, interesting, and good for their health. Lonely they are not. They contact Belle’s aunt and uncle, who are very elderly and delighted to have young relatives close by. It is fortunate that they are able financially to have this hiatus and to be wise enough to recognize their need to take it.

This story continues and is picked up again several decades down the road. Check in and see where Belle and her husband and children are living, and how, in general, Belle views life then.



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8 Responses to Who is Belle?

  1. Judith

    It’s so strange to think they could have decided to stay in California, which must have been tempting,…and you would have never met Grampa and the lot of us would never have been!

    • Marjorie

      Judith – There is a well-know poem called “The Path Less Traveled”. See if you can find it. It deals with the fact that life is a series of choices. One chooses the path to take, and may wonder but never know, what life would have been like if the other path available had been taken instead.
      Life is amazingly unpredictable. Choose your paths with care!
      (Editor’s note: Marjorie might be referring to “The Road not Taken,” by Robert Frost.)

  2. Dave Jobson

    Hi Marj
    I am curious. I don’t think you ever told us how Belle and Will met and married.

    • Marjorie

      A bit of homework, Dave. Look up the third essay in the Who is Belle? series, January 28th blog. It is devoted to the questions you ask. Greetings to all in Edmonton.

  3. Eveline Goodall

    I am remembering how my grandmother travelled to La Jolla for part of the winter several times. By greyhound bus.. with stops in various centres where she took a hotel and had good sleep before she got back on the bus. This when she was a widow. Where did she stay? Who did she meet? To my knowledge she travelled alone. What a brave and adventurous soul. I know she always returned refreshed.
    So going south for a while for rest and recuperation began early!!
    Looking forward to the next vignette.

    love to you

    • Marjorie

      Eveline – In the past, as in the present, there were strong and adventuresome men and women. Today the general expectation is that if we aren’t, we should be! That is not what I believe. This is closer. Lump men and women together – it doesn’t seem to matter, people are different. To borrow military terms, some are leaders, some followers, some part of both. I look at the Belle I knew so well, sometimes she was a general, sometimes a corporal, never a private (who faithfully follows orders.)
      Perhaps the challenge is to start with the ancient proverb “Know Thyself”. What is your basic personality? What can you or can’t you do? What do you want to do? Honest introspection is a great guide to a living – saves one a lot of back-tracking!

  4. Norma Wheeler

    Hello Marjorie;
    Thank you for this. I truly enjoy your writing. I trust you are doing well. God bless.

    • Marjorie

      And I enjoy hearing from you, Norma. These essays about Belle and family are close to my heart, and it is very satisfying to hear others enjoy them. I write them for three main reasons: for my children so they will better know their grandmother, for my readers for whatever they find of interest, and for myself – in loving memory of the mother I knew.